Being friends after dating

27 Nov

Yeah, he remembers all of that and it scarred his brain and now he will not so much as come close to licking your face ever or being a total dick out of nowhere, don't you worry. You know all about his issues with his ex, so you're not wondering what he likes and doesn't like. You already trust him, which makes you, like, 80 percent less nail-bitingly nervous about everything.

The guy who slept with you and then stopped calling you for no reason?

2) Ex-couples are more likely to stay friends if the breakup was mutual.

Also, post-dissolution friendships are more likely if the breakup was initiated by the man.

I've shared my feelings only with a few close female accountability partners who have prayed with me through this time.

If his last girlfriend texted him 4,000 times a day, you know not to text him 4,000 times a day and thus, only text him 3,999 times a day. One of the hardest parts about dating someone new is "oh my god, who even is this stranger?! He already knows some of your #issues and is fine with them.

" but with him, you already have a pretty good sense of who he is because you've spent the last year hanging out with him like pals. He knows that you start imagining he's dead on the side of the road when he doesn't text you back for eight hours so he does his best not to make you think he's dead. If he's the type of guy who would've been your friend whether you eventually dated or not, he's already the best kind of guy to date.

There is also the question of scarcity of queer community, and of shared history with the people your ex connected you to, and the trouble of re-organizing your social structure and routine in the aftermath of a breakup.

There are lots of reasons to not want to rock the boat and just fold up the messy feelings and carry on in whatever way seems easiest to everyone around you.